The 12 jobs you are doing for your ADHD kid, and the order to give them back.
You do it because you love them, and you would do it forever if it worked. But somewhere along the way you became your kid's memory, planner, and alarm clock, and you are tired of being everything except their parent.
- See all 12 jobs you are quietly doing for your kid laid out on one page, so that the invisible load finally has a name and a shape.
- Get the handoff order, easiest first, so that you start with a win this week instead of a fight.
- Know the one job to hand back first and exactly what "they own it now" looks like, so that you can stop checking, and mean it.
Parents of a capable kid, somewhere between sixth grade and senior year of college, with ADHD or the kind of executive-function struggle that looks like ADHD. Your kid understands more than their grades show. The problem was never whether they could do the work. It is whether it gets started, gets finished, and gets turned in without you in the loop.
If you have said "we have tried everything and none of it works in real life," this is for you.
A short PDF. Ten minutes to read.
- All 12 executive-function jobs parents end up carrying, from remembering the assignment exists to packing the bag to chasing the teacher. Not the driving, the cooking, or the dentist. Those are parenting. These are the twelve that were always meant to become your kid's.
- For each one: what it looks like when you are doing it, what it looks like when your kid owns it, and the one sign that tells you it has actually moved.
- The handoff order, easiest to hardest, so you are not guessing where to start.
- A last page that tells you what to do first, this week.
Written by a dad who spent years being his son's executive function, then built a way out of it. Not a coach, not a clinic, not a course pitch. Your email gets you the PDF and a couple of follow-up notes. Nothing about your kid is collected. Unsubscribe in one click.
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Ten minutes. Twelve jobs. The one to hand back first.